In this episode, Dr. Subhash Chandra speaks to the students of the Zakir Husain Delhi College about the art of building relationships and nurturing them.
Subhahsji centers the discussion around the important subject of how do we build, maintain and enjoy relationships.
In our life how many people do we really meet? What is it that pulls us to people and people to us? Relationships are just as important as ourselves. Subhashji explains, “Sometimes we meet an unknown person and either we like that person or we don’t. Even though you don’t know the person, you either feel comfortable or do not feel like associating with that person. Why does this happen? Even though you do not know the person then why we like or don’t like a person in the first impression? Why does this happen?” asks Subhashji.
Explaining that he says that, “It is because of the kind of sensation we get in your mind when you see the person. It is the vibe you get from the person.”
A student says that when one is happy and smiling, automatically people like that person and are attracted to that person. Another student said that if one is more empathetic towards the other and speaks by addressing the person with his/her name it helps build a stronger relationship. Also eye contact plays a very important role.
Taking the discussion further Subhashji says that today’s life is so stressful that all relationships are suffering. We have become transactional and our expectations have changed. So how do you overcome these and build, maintain and enjoy human relationships?
A member of the audience asks, “It is very easy to be cordial with people of the same socaio-economic stature however how to build relationship with someone higher than oneself in terms of economic status?” Subhashji replied, “What is the definition of ‘lower’ or ‘higher’? When you think about these constructs, there itself you have begun on the wrong foot. We are all humans at the end of the day.”
The first change-maker guest on the show is Shri Omkarnath also fondly known as the ‘medicine baba’ of Delhi who walks house to house and collects unused and unneeded medicines and brings them to the poor. However, due to instability he has to keep moving houses and often people do not know where to send the extra medicines if they want to. Subhashji offered a solution to this by making Zee News office as the relay hub for this.
The second guest on the show is a person who has spent 35 years in public welfare, ace psychologist and therapist Shri Nimish Desai, Head of the Department of Psychiatry and the Medical Superintendent at the Institute of Human Behaviour and Allied Sciences, Delhi. With respect to maintaining relationships he pointed out that understanding relationships in their own right and complexity is important. Also being flexible is key to coping with changes in the dynamics of relationships that is innate to any human relationship.